Don’t be Your own Obstacle.


I feel as if I’m an expert on this topic, because I’ve been my own obstacle for the longest… And I can speak about this from the bottom of my heart, don’t become a victim of your own comfort. 


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Really, I know it’s amazing to be comfortable,  you  get use to putting out the bare minimum for the same results…And it becomes your norm.

But, the norm can get boring…

If you were stuck, like me you probably still are stuck trying to gather yourself, you’ll eventually see that  you haven’t accomplished any of your main goals. That life is passing you by, and you no longer can tell Monday apart from Friday…(Seriously, no joy in looking forward to the weekends anymore, bummer).

And that’s just not acceptable! Especially if you really want so much more for yourself!

Ask yourself the following and after you ask/answer ask why!:

  • When I have a great opportunity do I doubt myself?
  • Do I always tell myself that I’m not good enough?
  • Do I settle?
  • Am I on the path to follow my dreams?
  • Do I put myself last/ procrastinate?
  • Am I afraid to try/experience new things?why-pic
  • Do I get offended by constructive criticism?
  • Do I let people know how I feel?
  • Am I afraid of rejection?
  • If I were to die today, can I say I’ve lived the life I wanted?
  • Am I truly happy?

What is your outcome? Are you an Obstacle? Why are you an obstacle?What is holding you back?

For me it’s my self esteem…My #1 problem is telling myself I’m not good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, etc… And that type of thinking has kept so much away from me.And it’s sad to say but those thought’s are just things people said about me (bullies in school)… And its crazy because I was a kid and those people are sooo out of my life now. Yet I still harvested their negative thoughts/energy about me and now I’m using that negativity and holding myself back…. (Seriously just had an aha moment) That’s what you call a self-fulfilling prophecy, whatever we believe about ourselves (whatever the resource), is how we live our lives. So think about it, If you tell yourself you’re not good enough to try then guess what, you wont be and you shouldn’t waste your time trying. It’s harsh to say but if you’re going to be negative about it then you should expect a negative outcome. So, speak positive of yourself I promise if you think you can succeed  you will!


You & I, we are worth so much more than the life of a settler. I think it’s just important to remind yourself that you deserve more… More knowledge, more challenges, more love, more experiences, more fails, more triumphs… JUST MORE! You are who you want to be, and if you aren’t you should work hard until you get there. Be & stay as positive as you can, keep pushing don’t let people create your destiny, THAT’S FOR YOU TO DO!!

 Experience as much as you desire, just try, and stop letting no be your first and final answer!

Last but not least don’t regret anything, never be you’re own worst enemy. ♥




Ungrateful Success

Why is it so hard to be grateful for what we have already? I asked myself that today as I was moping about, I just received really good news this week about getting the job I always wanted… Instead of celebrating, I was laying in bed feeling down asking myself ‘what’s next?’. As all the negativity started to fill my head I started focusing on what I don’t have, telling myself like ‘yea you’re so accomplished, yet your still suffering with acne, single, and broke.’ It got so bad I started crying, and that didn’t help anything it just intensified my self loathing.  I had to seriously take a moment to myself and ask why? Why does good news make me think badly of myself and what I’m lacking.

And I realized I’m human, most of us are conditioned to never being fully satisfied no matter how much or what we accomplish. ( I envy those who are completely content). We always want more, as for me I know I feel as if I have so much more to do before I can consider myself an acclaimed individual. Once I reach something I want, I check that off the list and start to stress about all the other things I need/want to experience. It’s not hard to point the finger at society and the media for making the majority of us feel as if we need more to be accepted.

Of course it’s  beautiful to want more and to work hard.But at what moment do we find our true peace?

Our wants are a selfish part of our mind, they never let us fully enjoy the goals that are already obtained, instead they are focused on doing the next thing bigger and better.

It feels so ugly but is that what makes humanity great? Is that what makes me continue to try to get rid of my acne, find love, and be successful?  Is that why people compete, and try new things? Think about why we put ourselves out in the open, vulnerable to the world. We need to be satisfied We’re never content, that’s why we keep going.

So is being ungrateful positive or negative ?

Can we say it possesses both sides of the spectrum?

Who knows how it works…However, I do believe if you can’t always be grateful at least be thankful for what you have. ❤️


Take a drive.

Photo by me. 🙂

A good way to relax, is to take a drive…alone. Go anywhere, drive as far as you need to heal. I sometimes find myself hoping in the car late at night to just drive until my mind is at ease. It’s really calming when you feel like you just need sometime for yourself. I usually find myself driving to a spot overlooking the city, it’s wonderful to see all of the lights twinkling in the distance, it just reminds me of the beauty of life and it always brings me peace.

Just thought I’d share♥️


I wish to no longer only rant about how to start finding myself, I’m ready to do what I came here to do & that is to express my expression. & try to help/inspire others to do the same. What I like to call my vibes, what I learned thus far in my 27 years of living is that you must be intune with yourself, know who you are, what& whom you find joy in and succeed in your happiness.

Processed with VSCO with b5 presetI woke up randomly and looked out of my window and saw an opportunity to take this.This may not be beautiful to you, but I love it, I felt so at peace with myself and happy  I started thanking God for giving me eyes to see.

I found happiness in this photo because it’s something I’m interested in. I get the same feeling when I drink/talk wine, or give my opinion on anything I also get the same kind of high when I can create and make others feel good.

I may not be explaining it right. But I’m just trying to say find your happiness and roll with it whatever it is. It can be gardening, making puzzles, cooking, makeup, dancing , drawing , photography, watching/reviewing tv …. ANYTHING!

Youre interests = 🙂

Please do what’s best for you, and shine.

If you dream it you can do it & others will respect you for it.

If anyone is out there reading this, what makes you happy? Or what do you want to start doing to find your happiness? I’d love to see you share.

We will grow together ♥️

1st Step to healing yourself…

IS TO LET GO OF WHAT OTHERS THINK/EXPECT OF YOU!!! I can’t stress that enough before you can fix yourself inside you have to get rid of caring about outside opinions. You are the owner of your body & your mind, ultimately you will always decide your own fate. And of course it’s easier said than done! This is honestly the one thing that personally ails me, I want to please everyone, so I conform and adjust and conform and adjust to everyone’s liking until I just don’t recognize myself or who I am anymore. I HATE IT. Plain & Simple. If someone makes a comment about something I wear, do or say I instantly try to conceal who I really am to appease them. All I am doing is being FAKE. DO NOT BE FAKE. I REPEAT YOU DO NOT BE FAKE.  All that leaves you with in the end is low self- esteem, unhappiness, and spiteful relationships/friendships.


The worst are the Dream Killers, you feel great sharing with others (most often friends & family) your life goals/plans and they just put a dagger right in it telling you what you cant do and why ….they can persuade you so much you believe them, and unfortunately give up…That’s the ultimate price of letting others interpret your life for you. Seriously, one night I was out among friends, having a good-bye get together for one of my old middle school buddies, and was asked ‘where do you see yourself living in the next few years?’ I said ‘New York’, honestly has been my dream to move there since I can remember… anyway one of my friends chimes in and says ‘ WELL you nor I can afford NEW YORK so I’m not going to be fake and act like I can’… I knew that comment bothered me because, that’s been a true dream of mine since forever that’s my one ultimate goal and here I am being told that I’m fake because I want to move there?… I mean I agreed… because I could barely afford to live in a cardboard box.But it ultimately got to me and I started to truly believe it and put their words into my actions, maybe I need to dream smaller, and realize I can’t move there its not possible…  And that has been my mindset until a few weeks ago I have finally been snapping out of it and getting back to my own goals and making the plans to succeed and reach the dreams God put in my head (and what God gives you no one can take it away! ) It’s just a prime example of how much power we tend to give others over our own LIFE….it’s just rotten.

Now that most of my ranting is done, I thought I’d share with how I’ve been getting back on track with accomplishing goals without the integration of outside suggestions… And for me it’s just one, two & three simple rules to follow. So here we go…

I believe there are a few ways to stay confident and not allow people to kill your mood/dreams, and here they are:

  1. Keep it to yourself. – If anything keeping your positive thoughts on the hush is always a plus, what you’re thinking will be purely untouched for your enjoyment, no one will be able to add their unwanted two cents, or how they would take your plan and do it differently, no one will be able to say you cant do it, and the best thing about keeping hush about your dreams is that there will always be an element of surprise when you accomplish them!
  2. Talk/Surround yourself with supportive & positive people.– this is important… the company you keep will definitely shape you for better or worse in this case we are talking about the better half…  We all have someone that we can talk to that will support us with all of our goals (even the bad ones) if you just have to share with someone your wonderful dreams and goals, share it with that positive person!
  3. Believe in your own damn self– People denied Oprah…Dwell on that for a moment… OPRAH. Wouldn’t give her chances!Didn’t like her style! And look where she is today… No one denies her now. Its Cliché but believe in yourself, whenever someone says you can’t … SHOW ‘EM YOU CAN!






Here I am.



“All you do is talk about what you want out of life how successful you want to be, then you start all these major projects, and never follow through… and then a month later you talk about how depressed and unfulfilled you are.” Is what my mother said to me today, and it’s true. The one thing I realize is when someone confronts you straightforward it’s something that they’ve noticed long before it comes out of their mouth, and more then likely more than one person in your circle notices your behavior, including  yourself. But of course if you’re like me you think there is nothing wrong with you until you’re  smacked in the face with the cold hard facts and you just can’t deny.

So, here I am the 27 year-old woman living at home with her parents, alone, ambitious, lost, dreamer & entrepreneur (yes I have a business… no I’m not consistent with it the way I should be)  taking a chance to do something I can be proud of, being heard, and hopefully connecting with others who are going through the same things as me. I figured there are a lot of us out there trying to find their own path in life, do things we love, make money, be able to live the way we dream, experiment, find who we are, and our magical talents , fall in love with someone or something, and just finally stop feeling sorry for ourselves and do something about it.

I want to wake up one day and be proud of who I am and what I’ve accomplished/experimented.I want to wake up everyday motivated enough to reach success, I’m a dreamer… we all are .The visions in our head are possible, whatever it is, we can do it. I haven’t lived much life yet and I have yet to begin, life is a gift, its golden, you are gold, I am gold lets heal/find ourselves together and start living the life that’s intended for us. Whatever you love to do , do it.

That’s what Healing Gold is all about….